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Sanity Check: Summer Edition
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Summer Sanity 101
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We are 2 weeks into summer and a lot of people are feeling the change in schedule and lack of routine is hitting them hard (hi, moms! ) You've spent countless hours researching + signing up for camps, fun things to do, coordinating your middle and high schoolers social life, uber-ing, vacations, packing, un-packing, and making countless meals + snacks…
But what about you? What are you doing for fun or to feel good? Or to just maintain your sanity?
Steal my strategy ↴
1. Communicate
The change in kids routines likely fell on you and that means your routine has had to change, too. Maybe your family / partner/ whoever doesn’t really realize this because it’s not impacting them the same (hello, mental load).
Hard truth → When it doesn’t impact them the same way, it’s hard for them to see the weight of it all and even remotely empathize.
ACTION: Become clear on what you need. What are your non-negotiables? And then communicate. Ask for help with this. You can’t (and shouldn’t) have to do it all.
2. Be clear + follow through
Anything you do where you are asserting (and practicing) your boundaries increases confidence and helps you take your power back. Remember, everything is a choice.
But asserting and standing firm in your boundary does nothing unless you actively practice doing what you say you need.
For example, if you’re constantly talking about wanting or needing time in the morning to workout, and your family, partner, whoever is actively working on giving you that space or supporting you in that - you need to be consistent about doing what you say you needed.
Asserting self-care boundaries doesn’t necessarily mean being extremely rigid. It means knowing yourself, what you need, and then communicating that to those around you (as needed).
3. Compromise (not just you, but everyone - kids, too!)
You may feel like you’re the one doing most of the compromising. (I know, I’ve been there!)
Compromise has a place, but before you suggest it, you need to first know what you’re willing to compromise on and/or where you need them to compromise a bit.
For example, if I've been running all around so my kids can live their best summer life, there might be a day where I just say no to all requests*. I know when I need a break. They learn that I'm human and what compromise means, and I get a day to do what I need/want to do.
*permission to decline any requests from anyone
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We can throw buzz words like ‘boundaries’ and ‘self-care’ around all day, but they do nothing unless you:
#1 Know what you need (and where/when you can compromise)
#2 Communicate that to others (especially those who live with you and/or whoever you may need to ask for support)
#3 Stick to it (people won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t)
Let me know if this was helpful or if you have another way of approaching summer - I’d love to hear it.
Thanks for being here!
Tara xo